How many times have we heard men say, “I’ll never understand women!!”? We are a baffling bunch sometimes and I can understand how some men can feel like we’re driving them to distraction when all they want to do is make us happy. So what are we looking for and not getting that’s causing the problems?
We’re People
Just because we’ve got boobs and we can have babies doesn’t make us less than a man. Every time you talk down to us or tell us we can’t do something or think we shouldn’t be paid as much just because we’re women – we get angry. We seethe inside but on the outside we’re paddling like usual. Then when you say something or want something all that frustration blows off steam. Sorry about that.
We Like to Make Plans
We like to feel confident that we’re headed in the right direction and we like commitment to a future together. It’s okay that YOU don’t like it but we do and we’ll keep looking until we find what will make us happy. It’s not a judgement about you, you’re probably a lovely guy but don’t ask us to give up our goals so you can live yours. It doesn’t work that way. We’re not martyrs, we’re people, look at the paragraph above.
Appreciate us
I’ve never been with a man who didn’t point out everything he’s done around the house. “Look, I emptied the dishwasher for you.” Gimme a break. Why is the dishwasher job mine in the first place? Isn’t it OUR house? If the dishes in the dishwasher are clean and you empty it why do you expect thanks? Do you ever tell us thanks for picking up your dirty laundry? No. So if it doesn’t feel good when we don’t say thanks, we feel the same way when you ignore all that we do around the house. We’re women and that’s not spelled slave.
Don’t Expect Us To Be a Doormat
Nothing makes us happier than being treated as your equal. We shine in that experience and I gotta tell you, it makes most of us pretty horny. Don’t take us for granted and expect that we’ll always be there to darn your socks and cook your pudding. At some point we’ll get sick of it and you’ll be floundering around wondering why we left.
Respect Us
Don’t cheat on us. If you’re REALLY not happy, tell us. We might be miserable too. We can decide together if the relationship is worth fighting for but don’t trash what we’ve had and make me hate you. We’re together because we shared a great love. If that’s gone we’ll survive, we promise. If you cheat on us just so you can have it all we’ll be very nasty to you. You’ll know why.
Trust Us and Give Us Space
We don’t want to be under surveillance 24/7. We don’t want to have to report where we were every minute of every day. We trust you while you’re away and we expect that same level of confidnce. We don’t want to have to report every penny we spent and suffer the inquisition over any of it. If money is an issue, talk to us about it but don’t treat us like children.
We’re More Than Just Tits and a Smile
We hate being treated like we’re all stupid blondes. (Blondes, as a group, are NOT stupid, btw, but there ARE stupid women and men.) We’re flattered when you think we’re sexy, just like you feel great when we think you’re sexy but we want to be wanted for more than sex.
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