Finding the right person online isn’t as tricky as some people think it is. We’ve all read about the horror stories of the guy who didn’t think it was important to mention he’d been badly burnt in a car accident and his date freaked out. Not because of his disfigurement – that didn’t bother her at all but that he had sent her photos of what he looked like before the accident. Then we’ve heard about the women who think it’s appropriate to send photos of themselves when they finished high school or college but now they’re 55 and their bodies have changed a wee bit.
So what’s the trick to meeting the right one?
Don’t “settle” for less than you deserve. I don’t mean that as a putdown to anyone because it’s not. It has nothing to do with education, financial security or looks – it has to do with how another person treats you. Don’t settle for less than someone who treats you like the special person you are. If he comes across as a bully or she comes across as a gold digger – keep looking. You should never be desperate enough to choose someone that your head says is wrong for you.
Keep it honest. I can’t count the number of people who create an online personality that’s nowhere near who they are. If you want to meet someone really nice, don’t screw it up by lying about what you look like, where you live, your educational background or anything else that would matter to you if someone lied to you about it. In all the years we’ve been running SexyAds we’ve had about 12 people who have had to “virtually die” because they got really involved with someone after lying to them and then had to kill off that personality because they couldn’t admit that they’d lied. It puts us in a really awkward situation especially when the person was fairly well known and we could tell that they’d logged in after they “died.” I don’t care how many times you watch “The Secret” you’ll never be able to log in to a website after your death.
For goodness sake, be safe when you meet someone. We’ve never had an instance where a member got hurt after meeting someone but we know it’s just going to take one person who feels that they know someone really well online and they agree to meet in a private place and the other person isn’t who they expect them to be. Never give out your home address to someone you’ve met online until you’ve had a chance to meet them in a public location. This bears repeating. Never ever give out your home address to someone you’ve never met in person. You don’t have to lie about it, just be honest and say you want to keep that information until you’ve met. Anyone who isn’t comfortable with that doesn’t deserve you. Always meet in a public, neutral spot and agree ahead of time to make it a short meeting. That way if the other person is a total dud, you have only wasted 30-45 minutes. There will be plenty of time for a second date.
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